Annndddd so it continues! When will people grasp the concept that it’s not just like the 6 week holidays for SEN parents?!? Yes we love our children with everything we have but it gets very draining. The same routine day in, day out, gets overwhelming at times and if you’re anything like me you want to scream! Not just a little scream… A full on earth shattering scream! Just to try and relieve some of the pressure whilst also trying to educate our little darlings.

We are now at the end of week 7 and the thought that some of our children may be able to go back to school has got me beyond excited! I love my children with all my heart but I need space…. I need some me time and to be able to hear my own thoughts just once a day. I know a lot of parents won’t agree with my choice but it is MY choice. I’ve seen all the propaganda flying around the media but this kind of set up would actually suit my child. No one can come in HIS space and if he wants to play alone he can. The reduced class numbers will also help with his learning as he struggles in large, loud groups. I’m so tired of everyone having a opinion on everyone else’s lives and this lockdown has only highlighted just how ignorant and self righteous people can actually be! We as a family have received so much judgement before the lockdown that it’s just like water off a ducks back and more and more people are feeling what we feel on a daily basis because our kids don’t conform to what was the “normal”. We have our own normal and always will have and I love it!

So… To any parent out there that is sending their child back to school… DO NOT let anyone make you feel guilty, DO NOT let anyone make you feel shame. We all have the right to make our own choice. Some will send their kids back, some won’t and that’s ok because do you know what…. It’s YOUR choice and you have to do what is best for you and your family and sod what anyone else thinks.

Stay safe everyone…. Chrissy xx

Hi, my names Chrissy and I’m a mum but not just any kind of mum, I’m a mum to 3 wonderful children who have either been diagnosed or on their way to being diagnosed with Special Educational Needs [SEN for short]. Whether you’re a SEN parent yourself and looking to relate so you don’t feel so alone or if you’re just a parent looking for some sort of guidance in the dance that can be the route to diagnosis, I hope you find it here.

3 IT’S and I is a safe place for a all SEN parents. This is where you will see a insight into my world and how me and my sons live together in the crazy world that is Autism, ADHD and Tourettes Syndrome. I’ve started this blog to try and releive the crazy in my life a little bit and to let all other SEN parents or parents in general that we all STRUGGLE and nobody is the perfect parent [ if they claim they are, they are lying!]

Now seems like the opportune time to sit and write my words to you all as we are now in the 6th week of lockdown and I don’t know about anyone else but I’m going a little stir crazy and pretty sure my neighbours think I’m a bit of a nutter! Afterall they don’t hear me the first 7 times I have asked the kids to stop doing something just the last time that I shout [yes I do shout at my kids, especially when they’re just being straight up vile! ha ha]

Lets talk about the reason I called this blog 3 IT’S and I. Some may be assuming its because I have 3 kids…. nope! Some may be assuming its some sort of take on 4 kids and IT…. nope! Here are the reasons behind the 3 ‘IT’S’.

IT’S not a excuse! This is a sentence that rings in the ears of any SEN parent. We aren’t trying to excuse our children we are trying to give you a reason as to why they have become so triggered! NOT saying this sentence to a SEN parent is ALWAYS a good idea. We just want you to understand our point of view whether you are another parent or someone in the educational environment, the judgement just isn’t needed and that sentence can do more damage than good… get yourselves educated before casting comment.

IT’S is always used when reffering to any diagnosis. It’s going to be difficult, it’s going to be a whole new way of life…. you get the idea.

IT’S always a struggle and always will be because well…. we aren’t superheroes! We often dread the day thats coming up and would like to just hide in a pillow fort all day with a bottle of something strong but we don’t. We get up every day and carry on because we have too! If we don’t push on and advocate for our kids… who will??? We are their safe place, we are home and even though we aren’t superheroes we might as well be because we never give up!

I will be posting once a week to keep you all updated on the trials and tribulations of what we have or haven’t done in the week [ haven’t being the most likely option ha ha] and hope to hear from some of you soon…. Chrissy x

Thanks for joining me!

Good company in a journey makes the way seem shorter. — Izaak Walton